Have you read the IEPs by Dr. Seuss?

Shared by a friend on my Facebook, thanks Barb. :)

Do you like these IEPs?

I do not like these IEPs
I do not like them, Jeeze Louise
We test, we check
We plan, we meet
But nothing ever seems complete.

Would you, could you
Like the form?

I do not like the form I see
Not page 1, not 2, or 3
Another change
A brand new box
I think we all
Have lost our rocks.

Could you all meet here or there?

We could not all meet here or there.
We cannot all fit anywhere.
Not in a room
Not in the hall
There seems to be no space at all.

Would you, could you meet again?

I cannot meet again next week
No lunch, no prep
Please hear me speak.
No, not at dusk. No, not at dawn
at 5 pm I should be gone.

Could you hear while all speak out?
Would you write the words they spout?

I could not hear, I would not write
This does not need to be a fight.
Sign here, date there,
Mark this, check that
Beware the students ad-vo-cat(e).

You do not like them
So you say
Try again! Try again!
And you may.

If you will let me be,
I will try again
You will see.

Say!

I almost like these IEPs
I think I’ll write 6003.
And I will practice day and night
Until they say
“You’ve got it right!”

You’re not bugging us!

I know I’m not the only one who experiences what I’m about to write about.  I debated whether to even do it.  Perhaps it’s my mood and everything that’s going on, but I decided to do it.

It’s not just those of us with special needs children, or those whose children have medical issues, it’s a lot of us whose children have been/are ill, regardless what it is and even the severity. It’s any one of us who has had a loved one in a similar situation.

We’ve all experienced this in some form or another.  I’m going to speak from my experience, particularly recent events in the past number of months.

Please don’t get me wrong, we truly and honestly appreciate everyone’s thoughts, prayers, support and hugs.  It feels wonderful knowing someone else and/or others are thinking of you during a bit of a difficult time.

We appreciate the messages, bbm’s, texts and phone calls from family and friends asking how things are going and how Patrick is doing.  It’s not always easy to sit down and write everything, as I’ve mentioned before.  It’s easier to sit down and talk to someone or speak on the phone if they aren’t able to visit.

We love the visits, even if Patrick is fatigued, he usually perks up for a bit when someone is here, then relaxes again.  The visits make us feel like we’re still connected, we get to see a face instead of hearing a voice, or reading words on a phone or computer.

Now here is what frustrates and saddens me.  Many people who you would normally hear from fairly often, seem to go quiet.  Many people are afraid to call or visit.  They feel like they are ‘bugging’ me/us.  Their thought is…she’s dealing with enough, she doesn’t need to have me bugging her too…

Yes, things are busy.  Yes, we are dealing with a lot at the moment.  It doesn’t mean you have to make the choice for us and assume we don’t need to hear from you because we “have enough on our plate already.”

We’re still here.  We’re still us.  We’d love to hear from and/or see you.  I understand some people are uncomfortable being around people who are ill, especially children.  Many don’t know what to say.  You don’t have to say anything.  Just be yourself and talk as we would normally talk.  Ask for updates and/or questions if you like, it’s ok, I don’t mind.  Knowledge is power and helps us understand and in many cases know how to respond or deal to a situation.

And please know…

You’re not bugging us!! :)

 

Enhancing the Lives of Children & Youth with Disabilities Conference

17th ANNUAL EMPOWERMENT AND ACTION DAY

 Enhancing the Lives of Children and Youth with Disabilities

 The City of London’s Accessibility Advisory invites parents of children and youth with disabilities, their friends, family members and caregivers, service providers, and others interested in disability issues to our annual conference.  Older youth with disabilities are encouraged to attend (please identify any accommodations required).  The conference is not suitable for younger children and regrettably childcare is not available.

 

When:             Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Time:              8:30 am to 3:00 pm

Where:            Four Points Sheraton, 1150 Wellington Road South, London, Ontario

Cost:               $20

 

General Speakers include:

Barbara Hall, Chief Commissioner, Ontario Human Rights Commission

Alfred Spencer, Director, Accessibility Directorate of Ontario

Ivana Petricone, Executive Director, ARCH Disability Law Centre

 

There will also be six interactive workshops focusing on issues such as:

Education; Transitional age youth; Estate Planning – ‘The Hensan Trust’; Disclosure, Avoiding Burnout and Creating meaningful social interactions for your child.

Exhibitors:

Throughout the day numerous exhibitors will be available to answer questions, provide information about resources, services and opportunities relevant to children and youth with disabilities and their families.  Various agencies, programs and organizations will be on-hand to answer your questions about education, recreation, finances, legal and community resources, technology and much more.

Exhibitors will be available from 8:30 to 3:00 p.m. in the hotel passageway and adjoining rooms.

Please visit the conference webpage:  http://www.accessibility.london.ca/children_youth_2011.htm for complete details on Registration, Accommodations, Transportation, list of Sponsors and Exhibitors, etc.

Registration includes lunch and refreshments.

ASL interpreters will be on site.

 

Scent-neutral event:

To make this conference accessible to those with chemical sensitivities, this event is scent-neutral.  We ask all participants to refrain from perfumes, colognes, strong soaps/shampoos or any additional scents on the day of the conference.  NOTE: Soaps and cleaning supplies used by the hotel may be scented.

 

Hotel Bedrooms:

For attendees wishing to stay overnight, you may reserve a room by calling the hotel at 519-681-0600 or by visiting their website at www.fourpoints.com

Contact us: 

For information contact the Accessibility Advisory Committee:

By Email:        accessibility@london.ca

By Phone:      519-661-2500  Ext: 0835

By TTY:           519-661-4889

Organized by the City of London’s Accessibility Advisory Committee.

Home at last

We’ve been home not quite a week now.  We’ve been busy getting caught up on things around the house, arranging follow-up appointments, making calls to the school, therapists, VON, CCAC etc…to update everyone and to make sure things are all in place and will be in place when they will be needed.

It was a rough week.

The more Patrick is in and the more that is needed to be done with him is getting more difficult.  It’s also taking longer for him to come back to baseline with each hospitalization.  The Doctor’s are noticing as well.

Last week, in a nutshell is as follows:

EEG was attempted on the Tues, 13th.  Got half the leads on his head (with much struggle), the more we got on, the more were falling off.  His head has always been sensitive, this being more so with having had surgery less than a week prior to this.  I put a stop to it.  He curled up in a ball and cried!  He cried all the way back to his room, it was awful!

Wednesday, it was decided that we should try to get an IV back again to be able to calm/sedate him long enough to get the leads on his head for the EEG.  Once they were on and his head was wrapped, he’d be fine, it’s just getting them on.

Two adavan’s later, he’s still awake and not calming enough at all to get an IV and do some bloodwork.  5 nurse’s plus us trying to get the IV.  An hour after we left him alone, he was out for 3 hours, but he still stirred when doing something to him.  I don’t ever want to have to give him adavan again!!  Coming out of that was awful!!  Not fun at all.

Thursday it was decided to try to give him Nebutol to sedate him long enough to get an IV, do bloodwork, take out stitches in his head and put the leads on for the EEG.  I didn’t want Nebutol used.  Nebutol is a drug given to many kids, especially young ones when shorter sedation time is needed.  It lasts 3-4 hours.  Coming off the nebutol is not fun though.  Children are quite miserable/grumpy, get headaches and such.  For one, we’re already dealing with headache issues, why do we want to add to that?  It’s what the team wanted to use, so an IV could be gotten asap, and then that way, if more sedation was needed, they could push something through quickly using the IV.

After an hour of being given the Nebutol, Patrick was seeming a little more relaxed but not so much to allow us to try anything.  I told the nurse, if she could get his stitches out without any issue, they could likely try for the IV.  After removing 2, it was a no go.  BUT, at the hour mark, they HAD to try for the IV regardless, so that the team and the EEG times worked out.  They had half an hour to get it.  By 2 o’clock (the time of the EEG), 5 nurses (including one fom the IV team) and myself, were not able to get an IV!   EEG didn’t get done.  By supper time, Patrick was out for a couple hours, again not enough to do anything to him.

There was talk of giving him more Nebutol to try it again.  I said no!  The purpose of the EEG was to monitor him awake and asleep at night, NOT alseep from sedation.  If they gave him more, he’d be out till the next day.  They had to figure something else out.

Friday morning (16th), waiting to see Neurosurgery and Neurology to see what the plan was going to be.  Neurology spoke of 3 different thoughts.  The EEG needs to be done.  I want verification that there aren’t any types of seizures happening during the night that might be contributing to tiredness Patrick still seems to have alot of.  He was going to speak to Anesthesiology and see about getting one of their spots to put him out (using the gas) long enough to get the leads on so he can be monitored 24hrs or more.  It might be tricky arranging that.  The other two thoughts were: 1 – starting him on an anti-seizure medication and see if there is any change in him (more so if we can’t get the EEG done in a timely manner).  2 – Treat him as they treat their chronic headache/pain patients. Both of those options would have to wait till after the EEG was done, as the medications all contain anti-seizure properties.

Neurosurgery were confident the shunts are working well and that there were no more problems with the ‘plumbing’.  Although he was still not 100%, they were comfortable with him going home, knowing that we only live 5min down the road and that if he deteriorated, we would be back very quickly.  The other idea they had discussed and brought up to me was to give Patrick a Port.  Having a port would make IV and getting bloodwork much easier, less traumatic and safer for Patrick and those having to do it.

I found a link about Ports, how/why they are used, their placement etc.  Typically they are usually used for Chemo patients, but are also used for other purposes obviously as with Patrick. Click here to see/read what it is.

Today was the consult for the Port.  The referral has already gone in to radiology for it to be done.  They will be in touch with me within the next few weeks.

It was also mentioned that if the Port was put in BEFORE the EEG was done, that would make doing the EEG much easier, so that is the plan as well.  Have the Port in first, then do the EEG.

Patrick has regular blood work to check his potassium and kidney function primarily, and other things as well.  This will certainly help.  A prescription for Emla cream, which will be applied an hour before needing access to the Port will numb the skin so he won’t feel anything.  He will learn and realize this will be much better and less traumatic and hopefully it won’t be so bad anymore.  He will be required to  go to clinic once a month to have it flushed to keep it open and to prevent any clotting.  A small price to pay for all he goes through, if  it makes it better.

Patrick is happy to be home and so am I!  Neurosurgery has recommended a gradual return to school as he tolerates it.  Half days or alternate days.  I’m thinking alternate days so he can get used to what his days will be like and have a day in between to re-coup.  I think it will be easier for the school and arranging transportation as well.  The plan is to return Oct 3rd I think :)

Thank you again everyone for your thoughts, prayers, encouragement, support and hugs.  They have been so greatly appreciated!

I’ll keep you ‘posted’ ;)

Have a good night my friends!

Just want to go home

First admission was Aug 26th.  They let us go home the long weekend for 3 days.  Admitted back on the 6th.  Surgery on the 7th.  We are still here.  I’m more than ready to go home.  I’d like nothing more than to take my son home and see how he does.

Last night’s(early morning) CT showed his ventricles still going in the right direction and getting gradually smaller.  The problem is, since Saturday afternoon, he’s been more symptomatic.  Symptoms being, lethargic, delayed responses, agitated, rashes appearing and going away, and twitching/shaking at times of his right arm and leg.  Patrick’s vitals have all been good despite these symptoms though.

Patrick’s a good eater and drinker.  The mornings are good for him, but come lunch and supper, he ‘slows down’ and has only been getting through half his meals, including the drinking.

Dr. Ranger came in this afternoon, and left scratching her head.  The next steps decided are as follows:

  • Bloodwork when he gets lethargic
  • Consult with Neurology and an EEG
  • Moving down to PCCU (Pediatric Critical Care Unit) and an ICP Monitor put in to watch and monitor the pressure in his head

I’m tired.  I want my son home.  This isn’t the first time for us going through this stuff, but the stays have been longer and longer it seems.  I know we need to get this sorted, and I’m praying it’s sooner than later.

Goodnight my friends, more to come…

 

Not by the books!

A new name for my blog – notbythebooks.com

Many people tend to think and go ‘by the book(s)’. A number of us know, that doesn’t always happen. Much to the dismay of others at times. Some people feel there is and has to be an answer for everything, and that it’s found somewhere in a ‘book’.

Everything for a reason. Each event leads and prepares us for another down the road. It may happen soon, it may happen later, but all in all, they all prepare us.

Many people lead life ‘by the book(s)’ and get thrown off when something ‘not by the book’ happens.

My son’s whole life has been ‘not by the book(s)’!! They are writing journals and articles and researching HIM!!

I’m not sure what ‘by the book’ means really anymore :)

Thinking ‘outside the box’ has always been what we’ve had to do, it ‘normal’ for us. :)

We, all of us really, have to start doing that more often. Imagine the possibilities that we could be opened up to!!

Because that is how Patrick & I have and do live life, I felt it appropriate to use.

An open mind! Open to the possibilities that await us!

Not going by the books, is a good thing in our lives. :)

Do you follow?

Thanks for listening!

Confidence

I was asked to write something as a guest author on Jason Bournes Blog. Here it is. Check out his blog and his journey, as well as other guest authors he’s had. Enjoy! :)

CONFIDENCE

 

 

Canadian Abilities Foundation website of the month

Augmentative Communication Community Partnerships Canada (ACCPC)

Augmentative Communication Community Partnerships Canada (ACCPC) is a Canadian, non-profit organization that promotes communication accessibility and community participation for people who have communication disabilities who may or may not use augmentative and alternative communication (AAC).

http://www.communication-access.org/

BC Park Program is open to individuals with a disability/ for a child with a disability.

If you live in British Columbia you may be able to camp at a BC Park for free. This BC Park Program is open to individuals who receive income support for their disability or for a child with a disability. The purpose of this program is to provide support for persons with disabilities who are also receiving income assistance. Check out the BC Parks website to find out the criteria and whether you qualify,

Website: http://www.env.gov.bc.ca/bcparks/fees/disability.html

While you can

Life is too short not to say “I love you”

Too short not to wear my favorite dress,

Too short not to do my favorite things,

Too short to say “lets do it later”,

It’s just too dang short!

What are we saving all the nice words, clothes and fun things for?

Live life…..while you can, and love others while you can. ♥